So if you are not partnered, you may still want to use a condom whether you are HIV-positive or negative.
But if you are partnered, then that is between you and your partner.
Just like anything else in life, it’s about being smart.
Your sexual partner can also consider using pre-exposure prophylaxis, known as Pr EP, as a way to prevent transmission.
"You'll never get a date now." It was 1989, and I'd just told a former boyfriend that I was taking a break from my fundraising consulting practice to become the development director at Chicago House, a residential program for people living with AIDS.
He was right: Nothing ruined the evening like telling a guy where I worked. I'd been knowledgeable about AIDS almost since the beginning.
I saw , nodding like a bobble-head doll when I wasn't crying.
Since I am not personally HIV-positive, I was concerned at first about my ability to speak to the topic. To date, not one person with an undetectable viral load has transmitted the virus.
But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that, although some issues may be different, the most important ones are the same – safety, consent and communication. Still, the risk of transmitting HIV if you have an undetectable viral load is not zero.
How can you surround yourself with more people who make you feel good about yourself? How are you going to cut the people out of your life who tear you down instead of build you up? Some people find mantras helpful, especially those in the “Fake it till you make it” vein.
Something like, “I’m happy, safe, healthy, successful and strong. What’s the one thing you want to do your best at this week?