Shame will creep into the relationship because both people feel their needs aren’t being met, and eventually a co-dependent relationship will blossom in which each person’s happiness is centered solely on whether the other person appears happy. Doom might just be the option you need to dissolve this relationship. Over time I recognized something about people who’s lives seem full of drama.
I dated a girl once whose life was a constant crisis. The common theme that emerged was that everyone seemed to be doing them wrong.
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However, I’m a firm believer the best advice comes from the people who’ve had life kick the trash out of them due to their poor mistakes.
So here are mine (and maybe yours) to help you identify some of the dating landmines you might be ignoring.
In JRR Tolkien’s epic trilogy, we’re introduced to a character named Smeagol.
It starts off innocently enough, wanting to spend time, getting to know one another, and humorous little jabs about how we’re “missed” when we’re gone more than a few hours.
“She broke into your home, has threatened ”“Yeah,” my old roommate mutters sheepishly, “You were right about that military/crazy thing.”“Oh, this has nothing to with the military….” I say as I imagine a young woman with a vendetta breaking down a door and stealing my clothes.
“This chick just happens to be certifiably nuts.”There’s silence on the end of the other line.
Happy marriages are also reported to function best when both partners can enjoy time apart without having to entertain the other.
Inevitably, what will happen if your life revolves around another person is that feelings of resentment will build. As her boyfriend, I might as well have been feeding gasoline to the fire drama because I was a source of the crisis as well.